(to refute the concept “judgement is bad” or “having no judgement makes you a better person”)
well, i see them as pretty much the same thing. though you can make a decision with or without (good) judgement. in otherwords, all judgements are decisions, but not all decisions are judgements … are not mutually exclusive.
it’s interesting … mainly because we use the term “judgement” in reference to several similar things. i have always seen it as in the sentence, “you can have good judgement or bad judgement.” so i perceive judgement as within an incremental scale according to skill or experience. and then the TYPE of judgement referenced here, or in your statement “judgement is based on polarised thinking” can be a type of BAD judgement.
judgement itself is not bad, we need to be able to judge situations and events for reasons of safety as well as foresight. judging people is a little more tricky — but is basically done whether you like to call it judgement or not. if you have a close friend that you like–that you go to coffee with — that is judgement. you are judging them as someone you like well enough to sit and have coffee.
therefore it is only falsely judging someone as a person you don’t like or would NOT have coffee with, that is then not called a type of BAD judgement, but simplified as judgement is BAD. and THAT is one of the oldest rhetorical-critic-ploys around. one i won’t make use of, because it is dishonorable. persuading others to give up their faculties, en mass. it is used in areas of suppression, for the sake of creating a more docile populace. that is just my opinion, and colored by quite a bit of unfair generalizations. but on the large-scale, it behooves any totalitarian political organization to have no judgement going on from its populace.
ps: the term for continuous overly-negative judgement is JUDGEMENTAL … so what is being spoken on here is they are trying to say “do not be judgemental” ….that doesn’t mean try to judge less. it means do not judge so harshly.
and yes, judging the world and others around oneself less harshly, can lead to more relaxed state of being. seeing less fault …. however, closing eyes to certain situations does not make them magically go away. and it is important to assess and direct elements of change. if you throw out the baby with the bathwater — say all judgement is terrible — then are left in limbo. it is very tempting to just believe less judgement is the “answer.” but it’s not. you need your judgement. you need good judgement. and hopefully, as we get older, are lucky enough to have better judgement and better discernment for better choices. solidifying a choice is not a sin. it is called conviction. and the reason we have convictions, is to find our reasoning within an individual format rather than group thinking.
lol … i guess what i’m trying to say, is that if you have no judgement at all, how are you going to manage to judge less harshly?
i understand the goal…. to not condemn since might not know all the facts, etc. but i do not agree with the goal to let it all slide — to simply look at anything and everything and say “it is not my place to judge.” because at that point, we see a type of suppression, and a manifestation of hidden resentments…. there is a term. passive aggression. so a community with the directive of no judgement allowed will manifest large degrees of passive aggressiveness. ways of getting even. and that’s a sad way to be. it is important to be assertive, and find that balance where are neither aggressive nor passive, but assertive.
and being assertive means exercising judgement– to use good judgement and try to stand up for yourself and what you believe. it’s not easy to be assertive. but doing so, i think, results in a more peaceful and complete state of mind. it means you are not fooling yourself, just to have a higher opinion of yourself (as a non-judging person). i didn’t mean to go on like this — and that was poor judgement on my part. see? and it’s good to be able to admit that, and know that i make mistakes. you have to judge yourself … otherwise coercion (by others) is your guide?
don’t throw out the baby with the bathwater. judgement is not a bad thing. it is a tool, and like any tool, is only as good as its user.
i’ve always had a problem with the blanket phrase, “you shouldn’t judge others.” because it is through judging others, and assessing the behavior of our fellows, that we can more justly judge ourselves. and NOT having that judgement of oneself, eliminates the good as well as the bad. for a system that is supposedly yin and yang, it is trying to be very yang yang yang. drop judgement, and be peaceful like me!
no. i would prefer to think LESS of myself in my struggle to understand existence. i would prefer to judge the world, and myself in it as a flawed, and sometimes very flawed individual. and you know why? because then when i smile … it is very, very real. it means i see GOOD. granted, sometimes when i see good, that is bad judgement on my part. but i try to err on the side of happy whenever possible.
in conclusion, it is incorrect to state that greater happiness/contentment occurs with no judgement. it sounds right, but is incorrect. they are confusing content with morose. with stepping out and away from existence as a being of influence, simply for the fact that you might judge poorly. and we all do at times. that’s part of being human. i know it can be a relief, and the phrase “it’s all good” became very popular for awhile. but only for awhile, because people started judging it.
you can reserve your judgement. but to dismiss it, is to deny the inevitable. and i would rather those i love around me and in my community — be crazy argumentative on the outside, and solid and loving on the inside. i would rather MY people feel they have a say, and work to understand and determine better ways of not only existence, but of getting along better with each other.
maybe it’s part of emotion. maybe i see someone asking me to give up my judgement, is to give up my rights of indignity. of outrage. or maybe i see that there is a very big problem with any force, that works to tell others to not use THEIR force. because you are then judging me, BEFORE any action– that my judgement is poor. and i resent that.
plus judging someone prior to action is one of the worst outcomes possible from the use of generalizations. you want to be happy? well, tell me how you using your judgement to tell others to drop their judgement is not hypocritical? and then tell me how many hypocrites radiate contentment. and then tell me again, how i should be like you and drop all judgement to be happy, while you are judging my existence as having too much judgement, because you’re so happy having the no judgement that you just used? or are you happy having power? and that is the question of the day.
ain’t it a fun kettle of fish? barrel of monkeys….. just don’t be fooled by those trying to take away your persuasion to be a proactive force in the universe. life is too short. by god, yes! judge away — and when you’re through, judge that it has been a good life … and it is a good life because you have done your best.
inner and outer. they hinge on each other.
the lone quail sat on the fence this morning
calling to his brood
calling and calling…
maybe he searched already
and got tired
decided to make them find him
maybe he’s lonely
and simply wants any fellow quail
to come to the call
took some pictures
and felt a little sad
for this lonely quail
this lonely quail on the fence
calling to one side
and then the other
for he was at the end of a rope
he was exasperated
to me! to me!
ku koo ku koo
the one lone quail on a fence
calling out into a morning
as the sun rises
the wind blew
yet had me smiling
in wistful comprehension
this one lone quail
touched my heart…
was where he did not want to be