a bit of rambling ….school is good or bad?

i read the synopsis. i ran the computer lab for elementary school, wonderful working with the kids and teachers. also helped out as a teacher’s aide. there are problems in class size, problems with testing and prepping too early for ACT’s and SAT’s. but the alternative is we can put children back to work in factories? i’m not sure what the point is.

the school system is not perfect, but it does serve a purpose. which it is the alternative to child labor. from what i’ve seen, it’s the pressure from parents to have successful children, that can lead to the psychological problems. and the fear from being locked inside school grounds, with all the precautions because of shooters… that’s hard on students. children are being over-medicated. the system is far from perfect. but i’m not sure what the alternative is supposed to be? daycare only until children reach working age? and you can do instruction without homework and without books. without anything to engage students in the learning process. can have classrooms where they run in a circle, instead of sitting. could have classrooms that involve nature hikes every day.

but the alternative to those classrooms is child labor. a lot of people in the history of our country worked very hard to abolish child labor. i’m willing to consider that was a wrong move. plus we all know tiger moms are called bad, etc. and we all know you can get 20 degrees and still not have a job. or not be happy. we didn’t use to worry about college until the very last year of high school. and I didn’t agree with the change now, where they have grade school kids planning what they will do and be. I think that’s crazy. Lot’s of things wrong with the system.

but i’m not sure what kind of options there are to take its place. home schooling of course has been one. and private schools with different goals and different technique. fact is it is up to the parents to decide what they feel will be best for their children. and homework is something that can be overdone or even be a cause of anxiety. but it is the bridge to engage students in the amount they are learning. without that bridge, school becomes a glorified day care. and that is possible, if that’s what parents want. if that’s what they think will serve their child’s lives better, more power to them? but school itself happened to take the place of child labor. if removed, i’m not sure what kind of alternative is being proposed?

you know, the other day i googled “funny cartoon” and just read through them in order. there was almost not a single one that wasn’t mean-spirited.

it’s possible that ‘all you need is love’ has worked as reverse psychology and all people have left is hate ….. so the best thing you can give any child is hugs. education will always be second to that.

it’s not life and death. often i think the biggest gifts parents of the 50-60’s gave us was their preoccupation with their own lives, and telling us to run off and play. many ways of parenting. and competition for all that. i know they didn’t compete, and didn’t view their own children as trophies. they were busy with adult things and trusted that we wouldn’t kill ourselves. maybe trusting kids is the element that’s missing now? faith in each other…

my parents were teachers, and my grandmother that raised me after they died was a teacher. who was very involved in the process of teaching itself, and also worked at school counseling. she had stories and stories she told us, of children helped or ways that she managed a classroom. i will never forget how inviting her to my associate degree graduation was a disappointment for her. that a two year degree was just not good enough. and i understood that. and i didn’t care, i was still proud for myself. because i knew how much it took for me to be able to do that.

i was an obedient child and then rebelled fabulously. always had to learn the hard way. for everything. but i also always had complete unconditional love. and lots of psychological problems. it’s very hard to say what path is best. and far too easy to generalize. also, in today’s world it’s far too easy to bend and skew statistics for whatever purpose you have in mind. i don’t need to ‘watch’ the documentary “race to nowhere”, i know it’s maker.

all every parent wants is for their children to be happy. but i guess for my own, i also want them to be smart. i want them to survive, and to also limit any harm they might cause others. i want them to be fulfilled, and find occupation that makes them feel proud and good about themselves. i want them to maintain the ability to look outward and smile. to never be bored and to be grateful for the little things.

i want my children to understand i know a bit, about life. but i don’t know what’s good for THEIR life, they must discover that themselves.

i wasn’t there for them as most parents should be. i tried to make sure they were in good hands. i don’t do well with responsibility and again it’s the psychological problems. might be neurological. so i left decisions like ‘how much homework is too much?’ to others. there are so many factors, and so many considerations when it comes to raising a child. but i think faith has a lot to do with it. “teach them well, and let them lead the way.”

“I believe the children are our are future
Teach them well and let them lead the way
Show them all the beauty they possess inside
Give them a sense of pride to make it easier

Let the children’s laughter remind us how we used to be
Everybody searching for a hero
People need someone to look up to
I never found anyone who fulfill my needs

A lonely place to be
So I learned to depend on me

I decided long ago, never to walk in anyone’s shadows
If I fail, if I succeed
At least I’ll live as I believe
No matter what they take from me
They can’t take away my dignity
Because the greatest love of all
Is happening to me
I found the greatest love of all
Inside of me
The greatest love of all
Is easy to achieve
Learning to love yourself
It is the greatest love of all

I believe the children are our future
Teach them well and let them lead the way
Show them all the beauty they possess inside
Give them a sense of pride to make it easier
Let the children’s laughter remind us how we used to be

I decided long ago, never to walk in anyone’s shadows
If I fail, if I succeed
At least I’ll live as I believe
No matter what they take from me
They can’t take away my dignity
Because the greatest love of all
Is happening to me
I found the greatest love of all
Inside of me
The greatest love of all
Is easy to achieve
Learning to love yourself
It is the greatest love of all

And if by chance, that special place
That you’ve been dreaming of
Leads you to a lonely place
Find your strength in love”

Written by Linda Creed, Michael Masser • Copyright © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC, Universal Music Publishing Group

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