depression is the wrong word for despair

clinical depression is very different than situational depression or sadness. actual depression is when things that used to make you happy, suddenly are empty and void of meaning. it is a chemical state and cannot be undone by “thinking positive.” because there is no up and down in depression, it is a level state of complete non-enjoyment in your world.

i didn’t even know such a thing existed until this one medication took at one time made me clinically depressed. big eye-opener. until then, i always imagined over-coming depression was only a matter of pulling yourself up by your bootstraps. but is a very real thing that can happen. though is important also to note that many of those diagnosed with depression are not suffering from actual clinical depression.

those with situational depression also qualify for therapy or medication, when the build-up of despair hampers “normal” function. let’s say “hampers adequate function.” because there is such a thing as life-changing events, and that which leaves the individual sore-put to find the joy in life. the cause of an unhappiness can be long-past, and still create limitations that move a person closer to despair than to awareness.

i have not seen therapists or doctors make any distinction between clinical depression and situational depression. it seems they don’t see or believe in making that distinction, and perform the same treatments for both. biggest problem in whole thing is the use of the word “depression.” in casual conversation, we tell others “i’m depressed.” “i feel depressed.” “this movie is depressing me.” it is a flip word used to indicate that one is unhappy. AND, with the causality of that unhappiness generally placed outside the person. someone tells you “i’m depressed” … you ask them “what is depressing you?” you don’t ask them “what did you do to yourself today?”

so the word “depression” is used to categorize a known effect with the causality outside of control, but into an area that SHOULD be controlled. “that movie is depressing you? stop watching that movie.”

yet there is no “item” to be controlled in clinical depression. there is no action that can be taken or modified. it is not dependent upon action, reaction, or even stasis. so the problem is language, within the word “depression” itself –that has messed up a public understanding of the mental agony involved in the REALITY of clinical depression.

why is it so important to find what makes you happy in life? we all want to be happy. happy is the destination. and happy is considered the antithesis to depression or despair.

so what makes a person “sad?” deprivation. that’s one. even lions in a cage are happier if they are fed. shchultz is famous for saying “happiness is a warm puppy.” has an entire book, though … of “happiness IS.” “money can’t buy happiness.” but was depression — or rather, clinical depression — ever the opposite of happy? happy is an outlook of further joy. sad is an outlook of further sorrow. clinical depression is no outlook. it is the absence of an emotive reactive-state.

when i was given that medication that made me clinically depressed, i had to make a decision. erasing emotions might be the best thing for-me. and i knew that if i used that medication, i could be a very successful person. remove my emotional-reactive state and everything would be about goals and nothing but achievement within a cut and dry reality. i saw this. it was not an easy choice to make. i could be successful and respected — or remain my screwed-up unlovable self. so i went to the doctor and said no, i’d rather be what God made me to be. see, i had that choice. but those who have a continual and natural state of clinical depression do not have that choice. they can’t pull themselves up from the bootstraps, because there are no boots.

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