often family are the best suited to tear us down … the ones who know your soft spots can hit you the hardest.
why some wish to bring harm rather than joy and hope — i will never understand.
just as i don’t understand jealousy, and those who hate others only because those others are more fortunate or more skilled.
just as i don’t understand families such as my mother’s side, who would rather fight among themselves and debilitate their strongest members — rather than work together to be a strength and betterment within their communities.
and yea, that’s why friends become the greater allies when you have families geared in this manner. why we, as a nation — have so MANY destructive families that we have to give ourselves PERMISSION to look outside of those families for support ……. well, something stinks in the state of Denmark. and it ain’t the fish!
perhaps the inner-scrapping is a mechanism to promote outward-spreading …. like the wind upon dandelion seeds; to more fervently look for larger groupings than any family could ever provide. or perhaps in some strange twist of survival, the competition WITHIN families is something that tests its members and hones their wariness.
and perhaps this is a natural event when and if those families are situated in communities of dissimilar genetic background. some sort of age-old instinct within the competition for resources — creates and fosters this trying and testing of family members.
hard to say for sure …. but i never saw the differences within human genetic-types. or perhaps i am so aware of how many differences there are even within those of the same “skin color” — that differences in skin color and race-origins never seemed that large a factor to-me. in otherwords, i see an italian being just as different as someone from nordic descent — as they are from someone of african descent. i see an east-coast native american tribe as genetically different from southwest natives, as they are from asians. so by classifying more, i type-cast less. i don’t see africans or even hispanics as “one” grouping ……. because within those frameworks are many many genetic and psychological classifications.
the ability to gauge personality-type based upon the set of features — just as you judge a dog according to its breed. watch how we “create” incorrect assumptions … like how our society told everyone to be afraid of pitbulls. and i never met a pitbull i didn’t like! big, slobbery friendly animals. at the same time — not once have i seen on the news or anywhere else — warnings regarding Chows. and every one of THOSE i have met are unbalanced and dangerous. their reactions inappropriate.
first realized that characterizations could be incorrect, when in gradeschool. we had a chain fence by the playground, and on the other side of that chain fence was a Doberman named Jingles. every cartoon, every movie and so forth — had the Doberman characterized as this type of guard dog that would rip your throat out. no questions asked.
but while Jingles was most certainly a trained Doberman — he was also extremely responsive to a kind voice. once familiar, you could just say hi and he would stop barking. that is not the mark of indiscriminate violence or a “killer dog.” german shepherds were characterized as loyal — but there are several types to that breed — many who are not loyal in any way whatsoever! lol …. generally speaking the thinner, rangy ones have more trouble with dedication. those with the wider hips and a greater depth to their skull, are the ones who have an uncanny and focused affinity for humans.
now when it comes to human families, and how we treat our own family members; that is not dictated so much by religion and society, as it is by culture and genetics. for some lines of humans, the very fact they are IN the race is because of a propensity to turn on their own. endorsing a natural selection based upon ACQUIRED traits of greater durance.
thing is, with policies of family support and building from within — there is ALWAYS a result of greater contribution to a community and greater steadfastness within those family obligations. whereas with those families that breed contention — they may perhaps create leaders for a community within a very random process of purveyance. but there is no guarantee, and the more likely outcome is a disruptive and unsettled grouping within the larger communities.
then again …. those with lesser family-ties, are more prone to create stronger bonds with non-family members of their community. ? so you can’t arbitrarily say that large amounts of competition within a family is a bad thing. it’s just an inappropriate thing, at different times. and when those times are changing as quickly as they are NOW, our families also need to change quickly within their fundamental structures, and how those family members are viewed and treated as member-beings.
life is about the sharing of resources, not the destruction of necessity. it is about how you get along …. not the myriad reasons for staying apart. it is the process of community, and how that community is a process of US. one nation under God. remember that. because when you have to fight to keep your place in the world …. it’s important to make sure that you are not just fighting to keep that place within yourselves: using outer-contest to bring inner-peace. that is a coward’s way. and has no place, and no being–no stand, no reason……. within the home of the brave.
that is me getting on my soapbox — but please take it to heart. we are not blacks and hispanics and whites — nor is the answer for THOSE discriminations, a matter of transference into TWO camps of becoming. the nature of political parties and the affinity to look for like differences in the designations for those groupings.
where is our dividing line? between the ‘haves’ and ‘have-nots.’ between the socially responsible, and the socially mobile. so it is NOT based upon the necessities of political action. it is based upon a caste system. and that is immature, and silly.
not to mention that the ONLY ones who will have true abilities to SEE those dividing-lines …. are those who have studied history, then. which in current U.S. society is a very dwindling few.
when it comes to political parties, i go with the democrats because within those groupings you have a policy for inclusion, not exclusion. it works the largest common denominator. (much as Deism is the largest common denominator of religion). if you are this and that, perhaps you are a democrat. but if you are NOT this and NOT that, then you can’t be a republican. you watch the shifting boundaries, the nonsensical points of “rally” to whatever cause …………. and it just makes a huge sigh well up within the depths of my notations.
i get tired of trying to keep track of the idiot of the day. how are we to reconcile ourselves as a nation? how about we do it one smile at a time, and go from there. how about a collective abandoning of the positional-good …….. and a collective embrace of humanitarian respect?
europe is going-there, and we want to do the opposite because demonization is the last retreat for cowards? please. if someone gets it right, if they are more fortunate or more skilled ………. you SUPPORT them in their efforts, and you LEARN from their ways. you don’t tear-down something to be as miserable as yourself. you look at them, and look at you — and figure out how to get from point A to B.
and you don’t put all your eggs in one basket, deciding that a “correct” community is a wealthy community. that dictates of monetary cohesion determine correct persuasion for social adhesion and continuity. because we have THOSE falling into different camps. and we need some brains to figure out the best course of action …. not jerk reactions to opposite conceptualizations.
we need to “see” that family is first. because the bigger family, is all of humankind.
**** thanks for the inspiration of this piece go out to Roger Allen Baut ****
